love your insecurities
Firstly, I’ll say I’m talking about physical insecurities here so just keep that in mind as you read this.
We all have insecurities about one thing or another I don’t care how much you tell yourself or others you don’t or how pretty you are, deep down we all do. It’s how we view them and approach them with them is what matters. I’ve realized throughout my life, almost all my friends, no matter how drop dead gorgeous they were, almost always seemed to find at least one fatal flaw in their appearance. It sometimes bewildered me when they pointed them out because to me they seemed so unnoticeable, unapparent, or minute. It seemed silly, especially when my friends who were always called beautiful and got attention for their appearance pointed these things out. It made me realize, no amount of external praise will atone for the imperfections we see in our selves. It got me thinking, how do we deal with these things that we find so despicable, even if they are unapparent to other people?
The other day, a good friend and I got onto the topic of physical insecurities and flaws. We were talking about a viral TikTok that essentially said: your face is a combination of 1,000s of people who have loved each other. At first, when you hear or read that, it seems obvious but when you really think about it, it’s actually insane. Think about all the people it took for you to be here. Thousands and thousands of people had to fall in love, make decisions, move across the world, and have children just for you to be sitting where you are right now. Now think about that fact that your face, you body, your skin tone, all of it is just a little piece of each one of those people. Maybe this goes back to my love of history but I think back to like the year 500, somewhere, my ancestor with my nose was out there. Okay, maybe not exactly, but you still get the point. Even more recent than that, I think about all my family members who share the same features as me. I think about my grandparents and how much of them I can see in myself. Even to my own parents, I honestly look like a perfect combination of the two of them.
Even further than that, my friend I had this conversation with brought up a great point I had never thought about before. She told me the next time you’re looking for the flaws in yourself, think of your future child with those same attributes. We all get told we look like our parents at some point or another, so your future child will probably look like you. Similarly to that, I always think about myself as a little girl. I have so much love for little me that whenever I feel bad about myself, I try to pass that love onto current me (if that makes sense). I really do this whenever I have a bad thought about myself and I find it really changes my point of view.
Finally, I’ll say this: it’s part of you, its who you are, even if you’re working to change it, its you for now. Embrace it, there’s no point of worrying too much about how you look or especially things you can’t change. Back to what I said in the very first paragraph, no one else really cares all that much. Don’t torture yourself over something so silly and odds you’ll never look so good again. We’re only getting older and you’ll never look back at a photo of yourself and think about how bad you looked. Even when I look back to high-school, I see pictures where I thought I looked so fat and now I think “holy sh*t, I was tiny.” It’s all perspective, don’t let insecurities get in the way of being happy.
